By Obiozo Frances Anyaegbuna
PAINFUL … yes. Life happens.
After a while, he remarries.
World people : ‘Ahh, ezigbo nwoke… he deserves happiness. Nwoke cannot stay alone , o ga adi lonely
Then life happens again… the second wife an American citizen passes on.
This man mourns small, regroups… and in two years he marries again. Another American citizen o!
Now listen to the commentary:
This man is intentional!
‘He knows what he wants!
‘Life must go on!’
Nobody is counting.
Nobody is raising eyebrow.
Nobody is saying “kilode?”
In fact, some people are even admiring him quietly…
Like… “sharp guy”
Now come… let’s flip it small.
A woman loses her husband.
She cries, she mourns, culture shows her shege shege
Then one day… she decides, “let me try again.
Omo… everywhere go scatter!!!
‘What is she looking for again?’
‘She has children already naa!’
‘She cannot stay alone?’
‘Two husbands already?? Chai!’
‘This one no get shame!’
‘She too loose!’
Ahhh ahhh! Ndi mmadu!!!
Same loss.
Same loneliness.
Same human need to love and be loved again.
But suddenly… different rules.
Many times and I mean MANY times i have young widows in my inbox asking me:
“Ma, is it okay if I go on a date?
Date o!!! Ordinary date!!!
Not marriage.
Not anything serious.
Just to go out, laugh small, talk, feel alive again…
Why won’t you go out ehh fine girl ? If you want to remarry go ahead !!!!
.Anyaegbuna, CEO FAB Signature, a widow, runs a group that supports widows to deal with peculiar issues, while raising her own three young adults
